Last night Gus looked up at me and asked very innocently, “Momma, can you tell me what girls like?” I gave him a couple of quick answers, but this morning I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was missing a very important opportunity. I sat down and wrote him this letter, because all too soon, he isn’t going to want my advice. But what is important is right now he does. So I gave it my best shot. Maybe he will hang on to it, and it will come back to his memory when he is seventeen and too cool to ask me.
October 2nd, 2013
My dear sweet Gus,
Last night you asked me what girls like, and though I gave you a few pointers I wanted to write down the important things so you’d have them to look back on.
So, what do girls like? First its important to understand that girls-all girls-will always be confusing to you. Even the one you marry. That’s normal. A lot of times girls are moody, bossy, and mean. And this may sound funny, but that is when they need you to be the nicest to them. It is called understanding, and its very important.
As for what they like, girls like to feel special. Anything you can do to make them feel special is good. I knew your daddy was the one for me because he always makes me feel like the prettiest, smartest, funniest, sweetest girl in the whole world. There are a lot of things you can do to let a girl know she is special to you.
- Write her notes
- Draw her pictures
- Pick her flowers
- Tell her she looks pretty
Another important thing girls like is-girls like you to care for them. Girls like boys who want to help them. Even the bossy girls like to feel taken care of. Things you can do to show a girl you want to help her are:
- Offer to carry her books
- Pull out her chair for her
- Open doors for her and let her walk through first
- When you are older help your wife with chores
This step sounds like a lot of work, but you will find out that when you are with the person you really love you want to help them.
The most important thing is to be Gus. Just be you. You are funny, handsome, very smart, and you have a great big heart. God has made a special girl just for you. She will be your wife someday. You will probably meet a lot of girls while you are trying to find her. You will know you you’ve found her when she loves all the pieces that make up who you are. And I must say, she is a very lucky girl because you are absolutely wonderful.
I love you and I hope this helps,